Should Christians Use Birth Control???


Listen, Queen, after four children my husband and I decided that we are officially done. I got my tubes tied and honestly, it was the worst thing I ever did! I thought we were being responsible, but it turned out bad for me.

What happened???

I’m having hot flashes!!!! That’s what happened. At first, I didn’t realize what was happening. My husband said I was extra spicy and I was hot when no one else was. I was so heated one night I stripped down to nothing opened a window with the AC on and I was crying because I was experiencing hell on earth.

My husband said…’you going through menopause, eh?’ I think that’s the worst thing you could tell a Caribbean woman. I was so mad at him! How could a 33-year-old woman be experiencing menopause-it couldn’t be right? But night after night I was hot and heated and I couldn’t understand what was going on.

One day my husband and I were watching an interview with Tamela and David Mann on the Breakfast Club. Mr. Mann started talking about how Tamela acts when the ‘hot flashes’ kick in and it sounded just like what I was going through.

I cried because I couldn’t understand how or why. I prayed and the Holy Spirit revealed to me that tying my tubes had effects that couldn’t be seen but I was now experiencing the reaction from my actions.

God opens and closes wombs, I should have enough faith to believe that God knows what’s best for me. He knows how many children I can bear. He knows what I can take better than I.

Before I got my tubes tied my husband and I would have sex and nothing would happen, in fact, I got pregnant with my third daughter on birth control. So I do believe that God is able to open and close our wombs especially if we are submitting our lives to him.

Now, I have never been on the pill, I have taken the depo shot but that would be in my system months after its expiration. After I found out that the depo takes away our calcium I stopped taking it because I can’t afford the calcium.

So, what’s a woman to do?

If you aren’t married-just stop having sex. If you are married you are under a godly covenant and I would make my petitions known to Christ but I would end the prayer with not my will but your will be done.

God didn’t give us the spirit of fear but of love power and a sound mind. The fact that I was fearful to conceive again tells me that I wasn’t operating in his spirit.

I think we forget that he is concerned about everything that concerns us. We are so caught up on what we see, that we forget that what we see is temporal and has the ability to change.

After Rachel had her two destined sons she died.

After Leah, had her seven children her womb was shut up.

After Sarah, had Issac she conceived no more.

Our lives produce based on purpose. After you have conceived your purpose then no more children will surface.


Should Christians use birth control? In my opinion- let Jesus be a birth control pill. 



3 Reasons You Should NOT Have An Abortion


I remember an old friend of mine telling me that she was pregnant. Amazing news right – wrong, well at least not for her at the time. She was married and already had a few kids and a one-year-old. Her heart was set on having an abortion and she wanted to know my thoughts on the matter. I told her-HELL NO!

She then told me that I didn’t understand. She just had a baby and it was too soon. She asked me what if I got pregnant back to back would I still have the baby and I said yes. At the time I too had just given birth to my second daughter. Anyway, to cut a long story short she had the abortion and I did get pregnant again; literally 12 months after the birth of my second daughter. Here I was, in the same shoe, she found herself a year ago.

So what did I do…..

This would have been my third child and it happened soon after my second and I was excited!!!!!! I had my baby!

I’ve had abortions before- yes I did. I didn’t want to bring the babies into a world where their mother wasn’t ready for them. Every reason that was ever created to justify abortion is all selfish. I thought after they were gone, I would feel better but I didn’t. The guilt of the abortion nearly killed me and it took a very long time for me to forgive myself.

I never wanted children. When my first daughter was born I was happy but I vowed that I wouldn’t have any more kids because I grew up with many siblings and I didn’t really like the life my parents had – I didn’t want to be like them. But here I am four kids later and loving it.

So what changed?

After I gave my life to God for real for real, he showed me the other side of parenting. Through my relationship with God I realized that I could be a good parent and that just because my parents weren’t what I wanted, they were what I needed.

It took a lot of prayers and deliverance sessions for me to completely be free from the guilt and resentment I had for myself because of what I had done and I promised God that I would never do it again and I haven’t and I won’t.

Here are three reasons why you shouldn’t have an abortion:

1. Children Unlock Gifts Within You.

After the birth of my second daughter, there was a strong desire to sew that came upon me. I always wanted to be a clothing designer but I couldn’t sew. One day I remembered that my grandmother had a sewing machine that she didn’t use. I bought it from her and the rest is history. I never took one sewing lesson or used a sewing machine but it was like I was doing it all my life. I started a business creating baby headbands that developed into creating clothing for my daughters, myself and others.

2. Having an abortion locks you into a covenant with Molech.

It’s a human sacrifice. You are sacrificing your baby for your career, your reputation, your relationships; but you are clueless to the fact that the act itself brings you into covenant with a demon. Molech was the Canaanite god associated with child sacrifice. Child sacrifice is the ritualistic killing of children in order to please or appease a god or supernatural beings in order to achieve a desired result. Don’t do it sis

3. Children Come With Their Own Supply.

Many people use the lack of finances as a reason why abortion is a great choice-they don’t want the child to suffer. Ironic, because they do suffer death at the hand of their own mother! After my second daughter, God showed me all the reasons why abortion was a terrible idea. She lacked nothing! I can remember being on the delivery table and getting a $2,500.00 deposit just for her. I got a surprise baby shower from strangers. Our medical bills were all paid in FULL and none of this happened because of my husband and I alone it was ALL GOD!!!!!!

God showed me that he cared about my concerns and that if we would only trust him to do what he says, we would see that even in our mistakes, he’s able to make it all work together for good.

Now I’m not a fool and I understand that there may be times when an abortion may absolutely be necessary due to medical reasons. I understand. But I’m speaking to those of you concerned about the money, or being a single parent, or your career- please understand that God has considered all of that and he still has a plan for you. His plan for you is a prosperous one but you have to commit your situation to him.

We all face different things in life but I just want you to know that you are not alone.

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New York Says Yes To Abortion: Grace Says Abortion- NO!!!

On January 23rd the state of New York extended its Reproductive Health Act by making it legal to perform abortions after 24 weeks. Under the new law, abortions after that point are permitted if the pregnant person’s life or health are threatened, or if the fetus is not viable.

It’s law but does it make it right?


You shall not give any of your children to offer them to Molech, and so profane the name of your God: I am the Lord – Leviticus 18:21 

Molech was Canaanite god associated with child sacrifice. Now you may say that women aren’t making child sacrifices, but aren’t they? They’re having abortions to save their careers, their reputations, because they aren’t financially able, so on and so on. Sounds like child sacrifice to me!

Tiphani Montgomery did an amazing live video on this subject that summed up my feelings and beliefs on the matter of abortion.

How I Childproof My Home: Sol-U-Mel The Holy​ Grail!



No need for any hype because the proof is in the photo. When I tell you that I almost cried because the results were so good- believe me. My heart was glad because now my husband and I didn’t have to purchase new furniture! I have 4 children (12, 4, 6, and 10 months) and sometimes my home can turn into a real zoo and so I’m always looking for eco-friendly cleaning products that work.

This Christmas my kids will be able to smile wider because instead of replacing furniture we will be creating memories that last!


“Thriving in Your Now” Postpartum Depression Advocate Sasha Nicole Starts Movement to Help Other Mothers in Need

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Sasha Nicole is a transplant Washingtonian with a purpose. With a deep passion for mentoring and changing lives, she helps women understand the power of resilience by teaching how to overcome various life obstacles and be inspired to succeed. After having her daughter, who is now six; Sasha experienced severe Post-Partum for almost two years. That experience along with the lack of resources and understanding in the minority community inspired her to create Partum Evolution a 501c3, with its primary goal to help evolve life with and after Post-Partum Depression (PPD) for mothers of color everywhere. Sasha is currently directing and producing a documentary centered on PPD that she hopes will spark a conversation and change for minority women throughout the world.  

Sasha holds an M.S. in Federal Program Management from Trinity Washington University, and a B.A. in Communications from Virginia State University She is a member of the illustrious organization Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. and currently serves in a high-intensity role as a Contracts Specialist for the Government and as an Adjunct Professor at Georgetown University.  

Tell me a little bit about yourself

I’m originally a military kid from Alaska. I’ve spent most of my life in the DC/MD/Virginia area. I currently work full-time doing Contracts for the Government and I teach Project Management part-time at a University. If that’s not enough I’m a mom of one daughter and one bonus son as well as a wife. I love all things travel and I’m a self-proclaimed Happiness Advocate and Postpartum Warrior.

How did you start the Thriving in Your Now movement? What is your purpose for this?

Thriving in Your Now started with me traveling around the world. People would always say to me how they wanted to travel, be more confident, and do some of the things I was doing and my response would always be well “why don’t you?” It was a testament that no matter me being a single mother at that time, no matter what size I was, and or what I did or didn’t have I was going to be committed to enjoying everything in my life at this moment. 

Postpartum depression is a very important topic in society, especially with new mothers.  How did you deal with having that with your daughter? 

You know the issue was that I didn’t deal with it after I had my daughter. I tried to ignore it. I didn’t talk to anyone about it really and some of the few people I did had a hard time understanding or told me to just get over it. During that time, I had immense thoughts of harming my daughter. I would imagine ways that would make her stop crying or to just drop her off somewhere because I felt I couldn’t do it. Nothing could have prepared me for everything I went through after having her. One thing I knew was that I didn’t want to have the thoughts I was having. I wanted the connection that I just didn’t have when she was born or after. I would hysterically cry asking God to remove my thoughts. Over time it got better. I talked it about it more and stopped caring about the judgment I would face being brutally honest about my experience. 

As a motivational speaker, what topics do you cover or feel is important when you speak at events?

When I speak at events I always like to cover my signature slogan of Thriving In Your Now because it’s something so many can relate to. We all have stories and try to use mine to really help people hone in on their journey and making the best out of exactly where they are. I, of course, can speak about a variety of topics and have crafted specific topics relating to the audience, but that is really my favorite. 

I see that you are working on a documentary.  What is that project about and when will it be released?

I am! I am working on a documentary that is based on everyday women of color who have or currently experiencing Postpartum Depression. The projected release date is late fall. 


As an advocate for Postpartum Depression, how are you spreading the awareness in your community and on social media? Is there a support group you attend as well?

I just started this movement and really being comfortable about being more open and doing the work that is involved with advocacy. With that, my podcast is one way I’m spreading awareness along with the documentary and my book. I also plan on starting group sessions throughout Maryland (PG County, Howard County, and Anne Arundel County) where women can come and have a safe space to talk and collaborate. 

You have a non-profit organization called Partum Evolution.  How did you come up with that idea to create it? What is the mission and purpose of this organization?

Partum Evolution is just that. It is about the evolution of Postpartum. It is a living testament to where I started and where I have evolved to and it is dedicated to helping other women do the same.

Do you have any special projects coming up for your blog and podcast?

I have some great interviews for my podcast coming up and I’m looking at teaming up with some bloggers to do a specially curated event hopefully before the end of 2018. 

Where do you see yourself in five years?

In five years, I will have two books out, doing speaking tours, having a center for women and children, and being on television.

How can readers reach out to you or connect with you? 

Readers can connect with me via my website at and submit their stories dealing with Postpartum and their journey through motherhood. They can subscribe to my podcast and follow me on Instagram @therealsashanicole

“I constantly self-evaluate and strive for excellence. By understanding and agreeing with myself the work that will have to be put in, I am doing more than representing myself; I am representing an opportunity for women everywhere. God has given me an ability to connect, relate, and impact people’s lives. Being able to represent my demographic gives me greater leverage to reach and inspire others to achieve greatness.” ~Sasha Nicole

Written By: Patrice Rivers