Should Christians Use Birth Control???

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Listen, Queen, after four children my husband and I decided that we are officially done. I got my tubes tied and honestly, it was the worst thing I ever did! I thought we were being responsible, but it turned out bad for me.

What happened???

I’m having hot flashes!!!! That’s what happened. At first, I didn’t realize what was happening. My husband said I was extra spicy and I was hot when no one else was. I was so heated one night I stripped down to nothing opened a window with the AC on and I was crying because I was experiencing hell on earth.

My husband said…’you going through menopause, eh?’ I think that’s the worst thing you could tell a Caribbean woman. I was so mad at him! How could a 33-year-old woman be experiencing menopause-it couldn’t be right? But night after night I was hot and heated and I couldn’t understand what was going on.

One day my husband and I were watching an interview with Tamela and David Mann on the Breakfast Club. Mr. Mann started talking about how Tamela acts when the ‘hot flashes’ kick in and it sounded just like what I was going through.

I cried because I couldn’t understand how or why. I prayed and the Holy Spirit revealed to me that tying my tubes had effects that couldn’t be seen but I was now experiencing the reaction from my actions.

God opens and closes wombs, I should have enough faith to believe that God knows what’s best for me. He knows how many children I can bear. He knows what I can take better than I.

Before I got my tubes tied my husband and I would have sex and nothing would happen, in fact, I got pregnant with my third daughter on birth control. So I do believe that God is able to open and close our wombs especially if we are submitting our lives to him.

Now, I have never been on the pill, I have taken the depo shot but that would be in my system months after its expiration. After I found out that the depo takes away our calcium I stopped taking it because I can’t afford the calcium.

So, what’s a woman to do?

If you aren’t married-just stop having sex. If you are married you are under a godly covenant and I would make my petitions known to Christ but I would end the prayer with not my will but your will be done.

God didn’t give us the spirit of fear but of love power and a sound mind. The fact that I was fearful to conceive again tells me that I wasn’t operating in his spirit.

I think we forget that he is concerned about everything that concerns us. We are so caught up on what we see, that we forget that what we see is temporal and has the ability to change.

After Rachel had her two destined sons she died.

After Leah, had her seven children her womb was shut up.

After Sarah, had Issac she conceived no more.

Our lives produce based on purpose. After you have conceived your purpose then no more children will surface.

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Should Christians use birth control? In my opinion- let Jesus be a birth control pill. 

 

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3 Reasons You Should NOT Have An Abortion

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I remember an old friend of mine telling me that she was pregnant. Amazing news right – wrong, well at least not for her at the time. She was married and already had a few kids and a one-year-old. Her heart was set on having an abortion and she wanted to know my thoughts on the matter. I told her-HELL NO!

She then told me that I didn’t understand. She just had a baby and it was too soon. She asked me what if I got pregnant back to back would I still have the baby and I said yes. At the time I too had just given birth to my second daughter. Anyway, to cut a long story short she had the abortion and I did get pregnant again; literally 12 months after the birth of my second daughter. Here I was, in the same shoe, she found herself a year ago.

So what did I do…..

This would have been my third child and it happened soon after my second and I was excited!!!!!! I had my baby!

I’ve had abortions before- yes I did. I didn’t want to bring the babies into a world where their mother wasn’t ready for them. Every reason that was ever created to justify abortion is all selfish. I thought after they were gone, I would feel better but I didn’t. The guilt of the abortion nearly killed me and it took a very long time for me to forgive myself.

I never wanted children. When my first daughter was born I was happy but I vowed that I wouldn’t have any more kids because I grew up with many siblings and I didn’t really like the life my parents had – I didn’t want to be like them. But here I am four kids later and loving it.

So what changed?

After I gave my life to God for real for real, he showed me the other side of parenting. Through my relationship with God I realized that I could be a good parent and that just because my parents weren’t what I wanted, they were what I needed.

It took a lot of prayers and deliverance sessions for me to completely be free from the guilt and resentment I had for myself because of what I had done and I promised God that I would never do it again and I haven’t and I won’t.

Here are three reasons why you shouldn’t have an abortion:

1. Children Unlock Gifts Within You.

After the birth of my second daughter, there was a strong desire to sew that came upon me. I always wanted to be a clothing designer but I couldn’t sew. One day I remembered that my grandmother had a sewing machine that she didn’t use. I bought it from her and the rest is history. I never took one sewing lesson or used a sewing machine but it was like I was doing it all my life. I started a business creating baby headbands that developed into creating clothing for my daughters, myself and others.

2. Having an abortion locks you into a covenant with Molech.

It’s a human sacrifice. You are sacrificing your baby for your career, your reputation, your relationships; but you are clueless to the fact that the act itself brings you into covenant with a demon. Molech was the Canaanite god associated with child sacrifice. Child sacrifice is the ritualistic killing of children in order to please or appease a god or supernatural beings in order to achieve a desired result. Don’t do it sis

3. Children Come With Their Own Supply.

Many people use the lack of finances as a reason why abortion is a great choice-they don’t want the child to suffer. Ironic, because they do suffer death at the hand of their own mother! After my second daughter, God showed me all the reasons why abortion was a terrible idea. She lacked nothing! I can remember being on the delivery table and getting a $2,500.00 deposit just for her. I got a surprise baby shower from strangers. Our medical bills were all paid in FULL and none of this happened because of my husband and I alone it was ALL GOD!!!!!!

God showed me that he cared about my concerns and that if we would only trust him to do what he says, we would see that even in our mistakes, he’s able to make it all work together for good.

Now I’m not a fool and I understand that there may be times when an abortion may absolutely be necessary due to medical reasons. I understand. But I’m speaking to those of you concerned about the money, or being a single parent, or your career- please understand that God has considered all of that and he still has a plan for you. His plan for you is a prosperous one but you have to commit your situation to him.

We all face different things in life but I just want you to know that you are not alone.

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New York Says Yes To Abortion: Grace Says Abortion- NO!!!

On January 23rd the state of New York extended its Reproductive Health Act by making it legal to perform abortions after 24 weeks. Under the new law, abortions after that point are permitted if the pregnant person’s life or health are threatened, or if the fetus is not viable.

It’s law but does it make it right?

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You shall not give any of your children to offer them to Molech, and so profane the name of your God: I am the Lord – Leviticus 18:21 

Molech was Canaanite god associated with child sacrifice. Now you may say that women aren’t making child sacrifices, but aren’t they? They’re having abortions to save their careers, their reputations, because they aren’t financially able, so on and so on. Sounds like child sacrifice to me!

Tiphani Montgomery did an amazing live video on this subject that summed up my feelings and beliefs on the matter of abortion.

5 Ways To Build A Successful Personal Brand In 2019

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It’s 2019 and everyone is building a brand, and rightfully so. You want to be the one telling your story, not some estranged cousin. Personal branding is merely creating a reputation that you can be proud of, earn from and establish a legacy that speaks for you even in death.

Here are 5 ways to build a successful brand in 2019:

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 1. Define Your Target Market:

YOU CAN NOT MARKET TO EVERYONE!!!! I hope that was loud enough for the people in the back. Trying to market to everyone is marketing to no one. Finding your niche helps you to customize your marketing efforts for your ideal clients.

Many entrepreneurs aren’t seeing the revenue they want to see because they don’t know who their customers are.  Social Media has elevated the customer service experience. You now have the ability to learn first hand what your clients like and dislike giving you real-time data.

 

2. Choose the Right Social Platform:

Social Media is awesome and I love it. It gives no names like myself the opportunity to share the same stages as BIG NAMES like Beyonce and TD Jakes. However, your efforts can be greatly diluted if they aren’t focussed on the right platform(s).

Take SnapChat for example; 78% of SnapChat users are between the ages of 18-24. This platform would not be the right platform for me because my target market is women between the ages of 25-44. Understanding each social platform will help you to streamline your efforts.

 

3. Great Content *Transparency with Strategy*

Share great content! Facebook was created to connect family and friends in one place no matter where they were in the world. Now, Facebook is like a digital coffee shop where everyone hangs out to get the latest *tea*. Cultivating great content consistently will help you to develop a tribe of people devoted to you.

Allow your audience to see some imperfections but ensure that it’s all apart of your marketing strategy. People love shopping with people they know, like and trust. Before creating the product or service build a tribe. Once you’ve built a tribe, you have people who you can sell your products to who will sell your products for you……can you see it? Tons of Reviews!!!! (Reviews sell products).

 

4. Consistency:

This is the part that separates the sheep from the goat. Everyone wants instant success and viral cred, BUT for 99.9 % of us, that may not happen. Consistency is the ingredient for massive success. One brick today becomes a wall tomorrow ‘no pun intended’, we build bridges here, but you get my point.

 

5. Follow Up:

I can not tell you how much money I made simply by going back to that person who expressed interest in my service a year ago. Life happens and people forget, but as a business owner your priority is your clients and it is your responsibility to FOLLOW UP!

 

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Join me on Jan. 31. 2019 for Build A Brand Workshop where I will be helping women entrepreneurs learn how to build a successful digital brand.

Topics include :

Who am I?
What business idea should I start first?
The building blocks of digital success.
What is branding and why is it important?
Finding the social platforms right for you.
Graphic Design.
Analyzing your demographic and competition. 
Tools for the trade.
Public Relations.
Micro Influencer Marketing. 
Partnership.

What makes me qualified to teach?

As a micro influencer, I have had the opportunity to share my expertise and be featured in the Readers Digest, US News and World Report, Interviewed by Elle Magazine. I have published in the Huffington Post many times. I have worked alongside TBN, Essence Magazine, BET and more. Through my brand, I Am Queen Magazine I have been awarded many opportunities to sit with and interview extraordinary minds.

 

 

 

4 Tips You Can Use To Crush Your 2019 Financial Goals

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The new year is fast approaching and our timelines are about to be ‘lit’ with ‘new year-new me’ declarations. I believe that 2019 is the beginning of great years for you, similar the to the seven years of harvest described in Genesis 41.

If you don’t know the story here’s a snippet:

Pharaoh had two dreams that troubled him greatly. He called his wise men and they were unable to interpret the dream for him. However, his cupbearer told him of a Hebrew he met in prison, that was able to interpret his dream and may be able to help. The Hebrew, Joseph, was summoned from the prison and was able to tell Pharaoh that his dreams meant that there would be seven years of plenty and seven years of famine. A famine so bad that it would cause the people to forget all about the prosperity the years before.

Long story short Joseph was able to give Pharaoh the strategy that he could use to ensure the survival of his people during those times. Joseph’s strategy during the times of plenty created a storehouse filled with all Egypt needed for the famine but they were also able to sell food to people from other cities and countries.

Even in famine, Egypt prospered because they prepared for the slow times during the full times and was able to financially capitalize and create an additional stream of income by selling food during the famine.

*Hint* They were an answer to a problem.

I began saying that I believe we are approaching a year of great increase. These seven years of plenty that you are about to experience doesn’t mean seven years of ‘the splurge’. These years are for you to prepare to be the deliverance the world needs for what lies ahead.

Egypt prospered in famine because they had the answer to world hunger and was able to come to the worlds rescue and profit because of their prudence. Joseph’s strategy was so simple, but it required discipline and it saved so many lives and increased the wealth of Egypt.

2019 is the year that I get my finances together, eliminate debt and increase my wealth with the help of Joseph’s Financial Strategy. Care to join me?

Step #1

Ten Percent Belongs To God-Pay Your Tithes!

“Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the LORD Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it.” -Malachi 3:10 I NIV

I can remember going through seasons where I tested the validity of this scripture. I looked at what was in my hand. I looked at my bills. Then I looked at the tithing envelope and was like God-you see what I have and it is not enough so I’ll pay this next month. Then the Holy Spirit would speak to me and I would give my tithes. Did I die or starve during the times I felt like I was unable to pay my tithes? Heavens no-in fact God continues to ensure that I receive all that I need.

Honoring God with the first fruits of your increase will not deplete you, it always increases you. I hear the talk in the marketplace as to all the reasons why you shouldn’t give your tithes, but none of the reasons given negates the fact that it was a command from God. I want ALL the blessings of God and if I pay my tithes because God can not lie, I can bet on the fact that his word is true and I shall be blessed because of it!

Step #2

Give Offerings

Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.- Luke 6:38 | NIV

Ten percent of my increase shall be given as offerings to the church and to the poor. I will decide at the appointed time whether I will give half to the church or the other half to someone in need. Or whether I will alternate month to month between the church and someone in need.

Whoever is kind to the poor lends to the LORD, and he will reward them for what they have done.- Proverbs 19:17 I NIV

When you give to the poor you are giving to God, because Jesus took on our debt so that through him we may be free. When you give anything to the poor its received by heaven as a loan you gave to God and he, the God with unlimited resources, repays you.

Step #3

Save Twenty Percent Of Your Earnings-BUDGET

Let Pharaoh do this, and let him appoint officers over the land, to collect one-fifth of the produce of the land of Egypt in the seven plentiful years. Genesis 41:34 NKJV

One-fifth of your earnings is equivalent to 20%. Joseph was able to feed Egypt and so many others by doing this for seven years.

Example:

20% of $100 = $20.00

$20 x 4 wks = $80.00

$80 x 12 mths = $960.00

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Step #4

Enjoy the Sixty Percent that’s left!

To some people who are living above there means 60% is going to feel like living in the wilderness but good news, no one has ever died from downsizing, at least I don’t think so. Now is a great time to reevaluate your spending habits.

Listen, I’ll be the first to say that I never took financial planning and budgeting seriously. I never took charge of my money, so my money took charge of me. Money is an awesome servant but a terrible master. As a mother, it is so important that I teach my kids the value of money and proper financial planning and spending habits. In this way, they don’t repeat a cycle of poverty but will create a legacy of financial literacy they can pass on to their children’s children.

How I Childproof My Home: Sol-U-Mel The Holy​ Grail!

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No need for any hype because the proof is in the photo. When I tell you that I almost cried because the results were so good- believe me. My heart was glad because now my husband and I didn’t have to purchase new furniture! I have 4 children (12, 4, 6, and 10 months) and sometimes my home can turn into a real zoo and so I’m always looking for eco-friendly cleaning products that work.

This Christmas my kids will be able to smile wider because instead of replacing furniture we will be creating memories that last!