Valentine’s Day Survival Kit For Singles w/ Trish McDermott (Match.com)

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Valentine’s Day can be an uncomfortable reminder to many singles that they are missing out on an important part of life–romantic love. Online dating services often see the most traffic in the period just after January’s New Year’s Resolutions have kicked in and leading up to Valentine’s Day.

I got the chance to speak with Trish McDermott. Trish was apart of the team that launched Match.com back in 1995-basically she created online dating. Today she’s a dating coach at Meetopolis (www.meetopolis.net). Meetopolis is like the Kayak of online dating, allowing singles to see the dating profiles of potential matches from many different sites, all in one place.

Here Trish shares The Valentine’s Day Survival Kit For Singles…

For singles, staking your own claim to a piece of Valentine’s Day is a great way to move past any sadness or awkwardness you may feel. You do this by making February 14th about giving, rather than receiving, love, affection, and attention. Giving makes you feel good. It’s a reminder that with small, kind gestures you can make a difference in someone’s life.

Look around. It’s likely that there are many ways you can give a little love and attention to others on February 14th.

  • Send your mom flowers.
  • Bake cookies, or buy chocolates, and bring them to a local nursing home.
  • Volunteer to help out at your child’s school Valentine’s Day party.
  • Pass out chocolates at your office.
  • Put Valentine’s Day cards in your friends’ mailboxes.
  • Call your father, just to say hello.
  • Give your bank teller, or bus driver, or someone who provides a service to you a gift card from your local coffee shop.
  • Volunteer at a soup kitchen and help feed people hungry for so much more than romance this Valentine’s Day.
  • Post a fun, appreciative or inspirational message to your friends and family who follow you on Facebook.
  • Call someone you know is struggling and invite them over for a home-cooked meal.

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If you approach Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to give a little love to your community, friends, family, and even total strangers, you won’t need to focus on the fact that you are without a significant other over the holiday.

It’s also good to understand the numbers because when we struggle without dating lives, especially around Valentine’s Day, it sometimes feels like we’re the only person not getting dating and romance right.

It can be almost impossible to avoid the barrage of Valentine’s season media reminders that while you are dateless, so many others have deeply loving romantic relationships. There are 98 million single adults in the US. If you’re dateless on Valentine’s Day, you’re in some very good company. You are not a romantic anomaly.

Much of the coveted romantic moments we are bombarded with in February, like the look of adoration in her eyes as she opens the diamond necklace he so lovingly hands her, are really just media-manufactured images of romantic love.  These might seem unattainable for some, even for those who do have a romantic relationship but never get that adoring look. It’s important to remember that these images exist to sell products.

Real love happens in life’s trenches, the day-to-day moments in the lives of ordinary people, and single people experience it too.  Kids don’t see Valentine’s Day as a holiday that excludes them because they don’t have romantic love in their lives. For them Valentine’s Day is about acknowledging friendships by exchanging cards or candy. They’re thrilled and excited and don’t use the holiday to beat up on themselves for lack of true love.  We should follow their lead.

I’ve watched millions and millions of singles search for love. This search can often be a long, tough, discouraging experience. Finding romantic love is often a process of failing one’s way to success. The trick is to stay in the game, even after an awkward, discouraging or disappointing experience. When it comes to finding love, you have to be in it win it. A good way to be in it on February 14th is to stop looking for love and to start giving some love away.

Have fun on Valentine’s Day. Play. Laugh. Feel good. Spend the evening with dear friends, Play with babies. Help out some elderly people in your town. Have dinner with your family.  Then, on February 15, ask someone out, put your profile on a dating site, take a risk and swipe right on someone.

And buy your chocolates on the 15th too – they’re half price!

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Is Pride Hindering Your Success?

 

Is pride the wall standing between your now and your next?

Many people are waiting in line for the blessings God has promised them. Many have been in line a long time and are frustrated, not understanding that they’re failure to release the spirit of pride is keeping them from possessing the promise.

Here are three things to consider:

#1 God resists the proud and gives grace to the humble.

Your failure to obey God is prolonging your elevation.

#2 True humility isn’t shrinking yourself – true humility is submitting yourself to the King of Kings.

Your failure to live in your authentic life so that others won’t feel slighted is FALSE humility.

#3 Your blessing is closer than you think!

Once you break down the walls of pride you will create the entrance to your next level. Your blessing is literally one decision away.

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5 Ways To Build A Successful Personal Brand In 2019

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It’s 2019 and everyone is building a brand, and rightfully so. You want to be the one telling your story, not some estranged cousin. Personal branding is merely creating a reputation that you can be proud of, earn from and establish a legacy that speaks for you even in death.

Here are 5 ways to build a successful brand in 2019:

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 1. Define Your Target Market:

YOU CAN NOT MARKET TO EVERYONE!!!! I hope that was loud enough for the people in the back. Trying to market to everyone is marketing to no one. Finding your niche helps you to customize your marketing efforts for your ideal clients.

Many entrepreneurs aren’t seeing the revenue they want to see because they don’t know who their customers are.  Social Media has elevated the customer service experience. You now have the ability to learn first hand what your clients like and dislike giving you real-time data.

 

2. Choose the Right Social Platform:

Social Media is awesome and I love it. It gives no names like myself the opportunity to share the same stages as BIG NAMES like Beyonce and TD Jakes. However, your efforts can be greatly diluted if they aren’t focussed on the right platform(s).

Take SnapChat for example; 78% of SnapChat users are between the ages of 18-24. This platform would not be the right platform for me because my target market is women between the ages of 25-44. Understanding each social platform will help you to streamline your efforts.

 

3. Great Content *Transparency with Strategy*

Share great content! Facebook was created to connect family and friends in one place no matter where they were in the world. Now, Facebook is like a digital coffee shop where everyone hangs out to get the latest *tea*. Cultivating great content consistently will help you to develop a tribe of people devoted to you.

Allow your audience to see some imperfections but ensure that it’s all apart of your marketing strategy. People love shopping with people they know, like and trust. Before creating the product or service build a tribe. Once you’ve built a tribe, you have people who you can sell your products to who will sell your products for you……can you see it? Tons of Reviews!!!! (Reviews sell products).

 

4. Consistency:

This is the part that separates the sheep from the goat. Everyone wants instant success and viral cred, BUT for 99.9 % of us, that may not happen. Consistency is the ingredient for massive success. One brick today becomes a wall tomorrow ‘no pun intended’, we build bridges here, but you get my point.

 

5. Follow Up:

I can not tell you how much money I made simply by going back to that person who expressed interest in my service a year ago. Life happens and people forget, but as a business owner your priority is your clients and it is your responsibility to FOLLOW UP!

 

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Join me on Jan. 31. 2019 for Build A Brand Workshop where I will be helping women entrepreneurs learn how to build a successful digital brand.

Topics include :

Who am I?
What business idea should I start first?
The building blocks of digital success.
What is branding and why is it important?
Finding the social platforms right for you.
Graphic Design.
Analyzing your demographic and competition. 
Tools for the trade.
Public Relations.
Micro Influencer Marketing. 
Partnership.

What makes me qualified to teach?

As a micro influencer, I have had the opportunity to share my expertise and be featured in the Readers Digest, US News and World Report, Interviewed by Elle Magazine. I have published in the Huffington Post many times. I have worked alongside TBN, Essence Magazine, BET and more. Through my brand, I Am Queen Magazine I have been awarded many opportunities to sit with and interview extraordinary minds.

 

 

 

How I Childproof My Home: Sol-U-Mel The Holy​ Grail!

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No need for any hype because the proof is in the photo. When I tell you that I almost cried because the results were so good- believe me. My heart was glad because now my husband and I didn’t have to purchase new furniture! I have 4 children (12, 4, 6, and 10 months) and sometimes my home can turn into a real zoo and so I’m always looking for eco-friendly cleaning products that work.

This Christmas my kids will be able to smile wider because instead of replacing furniture we will be creating memories that last!