I created this look simply by expressing my love for Instagram with makeup. Creating these looks was so much fun because I got the chance to be creative with the things I love.
It’s Valentine’s Day!!!!!
Everyone may not be shouting at the top of their lungs with joy and if you find yourself depressed because you are on the single bus — fear not! My friends and I have compiled this survival guide just for you.
Start your day doing something just for you! Whether it’s a workout you love, meditation you love, talking to your best friend or mom, watching part of your favorite show, dancing around your room, take a bath, etc. If you start the day doing something for your wellbeing, it will get you started on the right foot and into a more stable and less vulnerable headspace for the rest of the day.
Stay off social media: Don’t even think about checking it for a day or two. You will be bombarded with images of people and their significant others celebrating Valentine’s day, influencers promoting Valentine’s day gifts, and other content that will give you FOMO. If you want to compare your relationship status to others and feel worse about yourself, then social media will do that to you! This includes dating apps to people.
Cry if you need to. It’s OK to feel sad and lonely. You may be sad and lonely right now but you won’t be forever. This is just a season of your life where you’re alone and single BUT it may be the only time in your life you will have this much me time so relish in it! Later down the road, you may be swamped with a partner, kids, a booming career, travel, etc.
– Meg Coogan Life Coach -Los Angeles, CA www.megcoogan.com
DON’T listen to ANYTHING by Adele!
DON’T drink a bottle of wine and look through social media to see what your ex is up to.
DON’T stare at yourself naked in the mirror and point out every flaw in your body.
DON’T drunk text your ex.
DON’T put yourself down for being single
DON’T go to an Anti-Valentine’s Day event. Too negative!
DON’T binge-watch Netflix.
DON’T eat a carton of Ben and Jerry’s ice cream.
DON’T forget that Valentine’s Day is a Hallmark holiday created to sell greeting cards.
DON’T feel remorse over your life choices or things that have occurred. You are EXACTLY where you are supposed to be.
– Laurie Berzack, MSW is the founder and owner of Carolinas Matchmaker in Charlotte, North Carolina.
Remember you’re not alone.
Sometimes you can feel like the only single person in the world on Valentine’s Day. In reality, there are millions of single people in the world, and many are very happy so. Being in a relationship doesn’t necessarily lead to more happiness, and there are many couples who would envy your freedom on their more difficult days. Sometimes Valentine’s Day is one of the most stressful times for couples as well.
Change the messages to yourself
Many people have critical self-talk. This is normal and a way we protect yourself from risks and lower expectations. However, it’s often not very helpful and can even contribute to depression. Feb. 14 might be a good time to practice being kinder to yourself. Start with identifying a common negative message you say to yourself and find a kinder version. For example, if you typically say to yourself, “I’m a loser,” try challenging that thought. What is the evidence for and against this? Is this based on a fact, feeling or habit? Is “loser” a fair label? What would a good friend of yours say about this? Once you think through this assumption, find a more balanced statement that you can believe. Rather than “I’m a loser,” a more appropriate thought maybe, “I’m a bit of a loner, which is okay, however, I do have a couple of close friends and we enjoy each other when we get together.”
Jennie Lannette, LCSW, is a licensed therapist and mental health writer based in Columbia, Mo
You may not have a Valentine, but your dog is heart-eyes emoji for you! Spend the day with your pup and remember that out of everyone on this big blue planet, YOU are your dog’s favorite person!
– Stephanie Virkh http://www.ccbandanas.com/
Write a love letter to yourself. Jot down all of the qualities you love most about yourself. This is a great way to remember that you have inherent worth that isn’t defined by external relationships. This is also a great opportunity to reflect on all of the growth you’ve done while being single and independent.
Lizzie Parmenter, Consultant for Passion Lilie, an ethical clothing line.
DO WHAT YOU WOULD DO IF YOU WERE IN A RELATIONSHIP:
If you were a couple, would you want to go to dinner, have a box of chocolate or flowers waiting when you get home? Whatever it is you desire, continue on. Go have that delicious tasty meal, eat your Godiva and pick out your favorite flowers for your home or desk. Don’t wait until everything in life is perfect to enjoy yourself, do what you desire now. Have fun, take selfies, if you don’t want to be alone, call another single friend to join you. Just do you.
Just because the world is focused on Valentine’s day doesn’t mean you have to. You have goals, dreams, and things to do, continue to carry on. Don’t be distracted by a holiday that benefits retailers more than consumers. Play your favorite song and keep moving, do what you normally would do any other day. Let your life be moved by the tune of the happy song in your heart regardless of what day it is.
SKIP THERAPIST DUTY:
Today is not the day to diagnose yourself, your situation, past relationships. Now is not the time to mourn all of the mistakes you’ve made previously. Give yourself a shot of encouragement by not going down memory lane. Stay in the present, hope for the future, think on what is good, smile and trust that this season in your life will be the best one yet.
– CHANTAY BRIDGES, CNE, SRES Coach, Realtor, Speaker & Writer http://www.losangelesrealestatenow.com
One way to survive is to grab your single girlfriends and head to Hooters! If you bring a picture of your ex and rip it up, you get 10 free wings when you order 10. I’m not promoting Hooters, but that’s what me and my single girlfriends are doing tomorrow in Fort Lauderdale! It’s fun and a good way to go out and not feel like a bunch of single losers. Ya never know who you’ll meet when you go out!
– Jade Trombetta, Senior Manager, Brand Marketing and Social Media
Misconception #287: You need a partner to Netflix and Chill. Pick a series and binge watch it all day. This is coincidentally also a great way to avoid the Couples Traffic that is occurring in the outside world. 10 seasons of Friends? Challenge accepted.
If one of your colleagues gets an embarrassing floral arrangement sent to their desk, suppress your eye-roll. You can be bitter all you want but it’s not going to bring a partner into your life in the next 24 hours. Suck it up and sip the vodka from your water bottle.
– Caleb Backe and I am a Health & Wellness Expert for Maple Holistics
Although I’ve been happily remarried for 10+ years, I was a single mom for almost 20 years, before I met my husband.
While I firmly believe the number one best way to “survive” Valentine’s Day or any other major holiday as a single, is to create a life you love. In doing so, not only will you be much happier, as a result, you’ll set a shining example to others (married or single) that being single is just as great as being happily married.
One of the things about me that my husband said he found most attractive, was that I was a ‘take it or leave it’ kind of woman; i.e., ‘if it works out with you, great – if not, great. I’m good, either way’. In fact, if anything, this aspect of my personality made him want to impress me all the more.
– Mary Kaarto, Author & Speaker
So, if you are single today it’s not a death sentence and there is nothing wrong with you! You are merely being preserved for the promise and while you wait-enjoy you, love you.
Create a Plan to Pay it Off
There are financial penalties associated with allowing your holiday debt to move from one holiday season to the next like 29% of Americans. If you opt to make the minimum payments of $25 per month on a $1,000 debt it will take you until 2023 to eliminate that debt. I recommend that you tackle the debt simply by breaking down the payments. For instance, if you owe $1,000 in credit card debt, opt to pay off the debt in 3 months by making payments of $333. If a single payment feels financially frustrating, break the payment into two bi-weekly payments of $166.
Don’t Delay The Debt
You don’t have to wait until you get your credit card bills to start making payments, In fact, the more frequently you make payments, the less interest you’ll end up paying and the more quickly you’ll be paid off.
Target The High-Interest Rates First
While you may feel money motivated to eliminate a few small debts with smaller balances first. It is most financially beneficial to eliminate the debt with the higher interest rates first as higher interest rate cards will cost you more money over time.
Cut The Budget
To pay off your holiday debt quickly, take a look at what you might be able to live without for a few months. You could cancel some subscription services, eliminate eating out and make coffee at home to free up some cash. And you may find that even after your debts are paid off, you may not miss what you cut back on.
Minimize Costs You Can’t Cut
You can’t eliminate all of your monthly expenses, but there are plenty you can reduce. For example, you can cut your phone bill and cable bills.
Lower Your Interest Rate
The lower your interest rate on your credit cards, the less you’ll have to pay on top of your balances. Call the company and let them know that you’ve been shopping around for a better rate with you for a lower rate, which will allow you to pay off more quickly.”
You might be able to eliminate interest on your credit card debt altogether if you take advantage of a zero percent balance-transfer offer and pay off what you owe during the period when the low-to-no interest rate applies. Watch out for balance transfer fees, though.
Cut The Card
If you want to pay off holiday debt quickly, you have to avoid racking up more debt. Not only can using cash help reduce your reliance on credit but also it might help reduce your overall spending. After all, the Consumer credit card debt now stands at $808 billion.
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I am so excited about all the new updates Instagram is rolling out. Now, these updates are new to me and I understand that it may be old to some of you; so to everyone like me-drumroll, please!
Instagram Story Ads
Story Ads allow Instagram business pages to show their stories to more people. You can choose to auto-target people similar to your followers or people in a certain location. These stories can be linked to your Instagram page or website.
Simply register your Instagram account to a business profile, or convert an existing personal account to a business account. Then, connect your business profile to a Facebook catalog of products on your corresponding Facebook business page. These must be physical products and must comply with Instagram’s policies.
IGTV Story Preview
Are you on IGTV?
You are now able to share your IGTV video in your stories. You just tap the paper airplane at the bottom of the video you’d like to share. When your friends see that story, they can tap the preview to watch the whole video in IGTV.
Instagram Voice Notes
OMG!!! I can remember getting so frustrated that I had to tell clients to move over to Facebook so that we could send voice notes BUT now Instagram has heard my cry and has now released its voice note feature. In your DM you can find a microphone, hold it down to record your one minute message. Then release and just like that you are sending voice notes on IG.
Instagram Video Chat
Video chat is now available in your direct message on Instagram. Send a direct message the person or group you which to call, click the camera icon and ‘ring ring ring!’ The awesome thing about this is the fact that the person or people you’re calling don’t have to be in the app to receive the call. This feature allows for 4 persons to video chat at once-awesome!
Note: You must have an active DM thread with the people you are trying to reach. So don’t go calling Cardi asking her to see her baby because the option won’t be there for you unless you both have an active direct message thread.
I would add the option for this 4 way call to also become a live video, *imagine the possibilities*.
Businesses can truly use this feature to up-level their customer service experience, set up client consultations and so much more!!!!
If you are a Social Media Manager, use these updates to set yourself and your agency apart from the others.
Queens 2019 is the year we bloom. Don’t get left behind- online, see what I did there, LOL.
We sing carols and songs of cheer, bake cookies and watching movies filled with family gatherings. It must be the most wonderful time of the year! Everyone must be bursting with joy and gladness during this time of year, right? Wrong. It’s not uncommon for people to start feeling depressed during the holidays. The holiday season automatically brings joy to some and gloom to others based on individual perceptions, expectations, and relationships or lack thereof. Most people look forward to spending time with family and friends, traveling, exchanging gifts and sharing stories around an open fire. While there are others still mourning the death of loved ones, spending long hours at work trying to fill a void and refusing to spend time with family because they feel inadequate.
This is why it’s very important to have the mind of Christ even more so during the Holidays because our thoughts dictate our actions, moods, and beliefs. The enemy’s purpose is to get you to focus on things you don’t have versus being grateful for all the things you do have. His job is to bring confusion and defeat into your life. It’s vital that you don’t allow Satan’s voice to overpower God’s voice, this holiday season.
So, let’s look at the many reasons one would find themselves singing the “Holiday Blues” and how to overcome:
No money, just problems. Don’t go broke or run up your credit cards trying to purchase gifts for everyone. It’s okay to set boundaries and let people know that this year you will not participate in any gift exchanges. On the other hand, if you would like to still give gifts try tapping into your creative side and create something meaningful from the heart.
Missing a loved one. It’s not uncommon to find yourself reminiscing about a loved one who has passed away. Instead of drowning in sorrow I would admonish you to find ways to celebrate life with your living loved ones. Instead of isolating yourself try creating a new tradition in your family where you share stories about your missed loved ones during the family dinner or create a conversation box to encourage everyone to talk about their emotions.
The black sheep. In every family, there’s always one person who believes that they don’t belong. Although you may “feel” this way there are people who love you and all your uniqueness. If you are feeling like the black sheep, I encourage you to step outside of yourself and communicate to your family just how you really feel and let the healing process begin.
Believing the lies of the enemy. Often times we find ourselves caught in a web of deceit that we’ve spun based on the things we decided to believe. The enemy’s job is to feed you a little bit of deception at a time until you’ve isolated yourself from friends and family. You overcome the schemes of the enemy by believing what God says about you and allowing him to make all things new
Written By: Ebony Parker