Leaders Are You Emotionally​ & Spiritually​ Healthy? Cover Queen Jacqueline Goodwin Speaks

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“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalms 147:3). Leaders, are you emotionally and spiritually healthy? Our emotional and spiritual health
determines the healthiness of our ministries. Just as Christ wants us to be healthy, He wants a healthy ministry. Often, when leaders are not emotionally and spiritually healthy it affects the church. We began to see a dysfunctional Body of Christ. As we began to work on our own issues resolving and seeking to heal from our own issues then we will see a healthy church. Peter Scazzero reveals vital principles in developing an emotionally and spiritually healthy church in his book, The Emotionally Healthy Church. Four principles he discusses are: look beneath the surface, break the power of the past, live in brokenness and vulnerability, and embrace grieving and loss. These principles take the leaders and ministers on a spiritual journey that will not only impact their lives but also their ministries and bring their relationship with God closer.
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Spiritual maturity is a process where God’s purpose of transforming leaders will be accomplished despite all evidence of leaders’ spiritual immaturity, but it takes leaders acknowledging and processing their emotions. As leaders transition from removing layers of emotions that have been buried by church activities and duties, we realize by not processing and not working through our emotions we are not beneficial in helping others in the ministry. Scazzero suggests looking beneath the surface as one principle that will bring forth this change. As leaders look beyond the outer surface of their emotions and where one is at spiritually one must be “painfully honest” with oneself, Scazzero affirms, “Honesty requires fully looking at the whole truth” (75). Leaders have been taught how to teach Bible study and Sunday school, discipleship, and worship etc. but have never been taught how to process their emotions of disappointments, betrayal, rape, etc. These are the issues that we must look beneath the surface and address by unmasking how these emotions have hindered our spiritual maturity. As leaders began to look beneath the surface they can begin to break the power of disappointments,
betrayal, rape etc. which leads them to the second principle: break the power of the past.
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Breaking the power of the past causes leaders to become unclothed and transparent. It is at this stage that leaders must take a closer look at which external forces have affected their role in ministry. Scazzero points out, “Numerous external forces may shape us, but the family we have grown up in is the primary and, except in rare instances, the most powerful system that will shape and influence who we are” (90). It is the family that leaders are raised in that dictates how they will interact with others outside and inside the ministry. Scazzero states, “Unless we grasp the power of the past on who we are in the present, we will inevitably replicate those patterns in relationship inside and outside the church” (96). Often ministry is where leaders run and hide from their past, allowing their ministry to clothe they’re hidden of fear, sexual sins, anxiety, frustration, and loneliness, etc. which allows them to be able to move from their past to their present. As leaders allow themselves to become transparent before God, a transformation takes
place that brings healing and the spiritual maturity to help someone else to move from their past to their present. As leaders break the power of their past, they become broken and vulnerable, which is the third principle. The problem that many leaders have with this principle is that, instead of allowing their brokenness and vulnerability to be used to help them grow emotionally and spiritually, they do not deal with the emotion, but instead put on a spiritual visage, bury their pain in some form of addiction, or cover up their emotions. This is where growth and maturity are born from leader’s frailty and imperfections, where God can use us to meet the needs of others.
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Scazzero affirms this, “Yet our light as leaders shines most brightly from the very backdrop of our own brokenness and vulnerability. This is our greatest gift to the people we serve” (136). Leaders when you have become broken and vulnerable, you will discover that you have yet to embrace grieving and loss. In a broken state, leaders can realize that they have not truly and completely grieved over a divorce, a death, division of the ministry or broken relationships. When a loss is not appropriately grieved and processed, it will hinder leaders emotionally and spiritually. Scazzero reveals, “Other losses…. unattended to over time, they prevent us from entering into walking freely and honestly with God and others” (161). The loss is an experience that everyone must go through, but as one learns to acknowledge their feelings and the impact of their loss, they will discover new ways to move forward and cope with the pain. Leaders as we incorporate these principles into our personal lives and ministries settings, it will birth an emotionally healthy and spiritually mature body of Christ. As we as leaders begin to look beneath our surfaces, we will mature spiritually and become emotionally healthy. As we as leaders have a deep awareness of who we are, we can better serve and lead our congregation. When leaders have gone beneath their surface, they will begin to transform from the inside out; that will overflow to making their congregation feel safe to allow their true being to develop and grow. As the church body becomes free from its past, it can effectively go into the communities and help others break free from generational curses. The principle of living in brokenness and vulnerability helps both leaders personally and ministries settings to identify with a hurting world. It is through their brokenness and vulnerability that we as leaders will be able to minister to those who are spiritually immature and help them work through their imperfections to grasp the destiny that God has for them. Lastly, to embrace grief and loss in our personal lives and church settings allows the Body of Christ as well as the communities to know that church is not a robotic service, but it is where one can grow through their emotions to become spiritually
mature.
Peter Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Church: A Strategy for Discipleship that Actually
Changes Lives (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2003, 2010).
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Jacqueline Goodwin is an ordained pastor and prophetess whose ministry focus is deliverance and healing. She has a passion and heart for the youth which has led her to various positions within the ministry and career field. Since 2002 Goodwin has served as Youth Director, a mentor, and Sunday School teacher within her local church. A former paralegal, educator, and substance abuse counselor who use her gift of empowerment to transform lives within her career field. She has earned a Master of Arts in Practical Theology from Regent University, Master of Counseling from Webster University, Columbia SC, a Master of Pastoral Counseling from Liberty University, Lynchburg VA, an Associate Degree of Paralegal graduating “Magna Cum Laude” from South University and a Bachelor of Arts in English from Francis Marion University, Florence SC.
She currently resides in South Carolina with her son, two daughters, and granddaughter. Her hobbies include running, walking, meditating, and writing, counseling youth and working in the community.
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Megan Kapri The Survivors Strategist: How I Found My Voice

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I was not a liar-but who believed me? Many didn’t believe me, I didn’t believe me. I questioned why I was born and I attempted to commit suicide many times because the pain was too great inside. At 5 years old I had to do strange things and was molested. I didn’t understand how I could be treated this way. Then at 8 nothing changed just a different human I was sexually abused by a religious family member. This experience made me question whether God truly loved me and if so how could he allow me to be abused? At 10, the pain still didn’t end, I was raped by a family friend; when would this betrayal of trust end. “I was a liar”, he said. I learned to be silent because although I could speak- I had no voice. That same day I was seen by a physician who used ultra-violet light to shed light on my story. The light revealed the semen & other body fluids was still left on me. It was on that day I was given my voice. 
Megan Kapri Manigault is an Amazon Best-Selling Author, Speaker, Mentor, and Advocate. Raised in Charleston, SC. She had always been a forerunner, paving the way for others and showing her love for her community by sharing her talents and gifts.  
In 2004, Megan became a founding member of the Students Can Really Use Bedside Skills (S.C.R.U.B.S.) – a mentoring program at Roper St. Francis Healthcare. Megan continued to shine as a poet, being one of the first students to participate in “Gear Up” – Gaining Early Awareness and Readiness for Undergraduate Programs. Megan was the founding member of the “In the Spirit of Giving Fund” – a program started at Garrett Academy for students and family members experiencing traumatic life events. As an actress with the “Charleston Street Vendors”, she performed in plays and skits about the history of Charleston and its enslaved people. These performances included the Mojo Arts Festival and the North Charleston Arts Festival.  
Megan graduated from Trident Technical College and the University of South Carolina, focusing on project management, healthcare, and psychology. Megan has worked in the medical field in various positions for over 10 years. She has spent countless hours volunteering at hospitals, nursing homes, and various faith-based organizations. In 2017, Megan was recognized by the National Council of Negro Women, Inc (North Charleston Bethune-Leonard Section) as a 2017 Innovator and received an award for her awesome works in the community. Megan co-authored a book that same year entitled “Unveiled, Unmasking The Pain”, in this book she shares with the world her rape experience. She wanted to help the world understand the experience of sexual assault and encourage others to take off the mask, speak up, and use their voices. As a survivor of childhood sexual assault, she decided to found I AM VOICES, Inc. – a non-profit organization, which now has a Chapter in Nigeria, both with a mission to transform the lives of survivors of sexual abuse while educating the community through awareness and prevention tactics. Megan has also created a mentorship summer program “Infinite Voices”, in this program she mentors young girls ages 4-17 on Body Safety, Self-Love, Boundaries, Financial Responsibility, and Entrepreneurship.  Late 2018, Megan self-published “Wilted Flowers, Still Bloom, this book goes over many of her steps and strategies to help others understand Trauma Survivors or even to help survivors learn coping mechanisms. She created in this book, activities for readers to use in self-discovery; the book has been used in book clubs and female support groups. As “The Survivors Strategist”, Megan has used what she learned, to help other survivors develop their strategy to overcome mental obstacles to reach their peace. Early 2019, Megan co-authored another book “Body Talk: Finding the Beauty In You”, Megan expresses in this book the freedom in loving herself. She discusses how she once struggled with even thinking her body or physical appearance was worthy of love. She explains that Finding the Beauty means shes still learning, still discovering, and still working on ways to love herself over and over again. She ends her chapter by telling her readers, “With every lesson I learn, I’m willing to share with you, because by helping you, I’m still helping me, sis.” Megan is known in her community and internationally by her heart and willingness to spread love and speak on Finding Purpose and Overcoming Life’s Obstacles. She lives by her Motto “To Find Who You Are, You Must Acknowledge Where You’ve Been.” 

One Artist Dreams Came True When His Paintings​ Got Into The Hands of Oprah Winfrey & Gayle King

 

 

 

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Artist: Pain Killer Cam Art

 

Pain Killer Cam Art, as the artist is known as, dreams come true when media moguls Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King got their hands on his creations. We spoke with the artist briefly and here’s his response:

 

 

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There is no doubt that he is talented but what’s more remarkable is his humility and recognition of God our father. It is God who gives us the strength and abilities, that produces joy and wealth. A true leader understands that he is great only because of who is carrying him. We salute Pain Killer Cam Art!

 

Dreams do come true…

Kowanna Powell Anderson Founder of Abena’K : ​Takes Are You Ready For The Ring Workshop National.

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Kowanna Powell Anderson Founder of Abena’K
Abena’k is a natural healer and community educator.  Originally born in Chicago she now resides in Minnesota. Her educational background is in business with over 17 years of professional experience in both public and charter school education.
Abena’k is the developer and facilitator of The Quad C Method an Educator Professional development Training program that train educators  how to actively engage scholars wholeheartedly in their own learning and serving with honor and humility in the Children’s Defense Fund Freedom School (Culturally Literacy) Program as the Program Director, and as an Ella Baker Trainer. Training over 4000 college students and young professionals to date. Abena’k is an active board member of Fashion With A Cause a non-profit organization and co-owner of the Brand House of Bella Hair, Beauty, and Fashion with her 3 sisters.
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She is the mother of 4, wife of 19 years to her husband  David and world traveler. Abena’k has been chosen to share, raise awareness, teach and empower, parents, women, and couples around the world. No matter if it’s the work she does in The Educational Insider workshop, families educational consultant business or if you dare ask the question Are You Ready 4 the Ring, or simply connecting as couples on a deeper level. Abena’k will guide you on a journey that will awaken ignorance, denial, and deconstruct and demolish illusions. Propelling you in a new state of conscious awareness, on a path of healing, and connecting you in a new way on a higher level.  Assisting you in creating a community impact that will not only benefit your life but will benefit future generations to come.
Although Abena K is a pillar in the community and offers awareness on many levels “Are You Ready 4 The Ring” workshops have taken a lane of its own. Her in-demand workshop is going from state to state capturing the attention of married, engaged and single women alike. Helping and encouraging women to heal and become whole before marriage!
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Are you Ready 4 The Ring is a 4 part cohort workshop series. That examine self-identity, self-worth, family dynamics, societal messaging and the social conditioning of women around the institution of marriage.


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How To Discover Your Gifts

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This week we are going to talk about understanding your gifts and callings. Many people are sitting on the isle of uncertainty because they don’t understand who they are. Understanding who you are helps you to gain clarity on why you are here. We have all been given gifts and abilities that were designed to assist, dismantle and build up ourselves and others.

So, how can I identify my gifts?

Get in touch with the child in you.

When we were kids we had great faith. We believed we could do anything and most times we are more in touch with who we really are. Because of the limited experiences, children gravitate to those things that come easiest to them. When I was a child I said that I wanted to become a Best Selling Author and Fashion Designer. However, as life would have it, I was told that those professions were merely hobbies and that I needed to find something more grounded and serious. I became a Police Officer and it was liberating at the beginning but soon it felt like bondage because my gifts were fighting to come out but as a Police Officer, I wasn’t able to embrace it.  Fast forward, 14 years later I have written 5 books and I am a 3x Amazon Best Selling Author. I am also working on my clothing line. I am no longer a Police Officer and I’m finally doing what I said I wanted to do in the fifth grade.

Funny how childhood me seemed to be smarter than adulthood me and I believe it’s because children live in the arena of possible – they just believe. They have faith that makes no sense and it doesn’t matter how many times they fall they continue to try and try again.

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Pay attention to the thing that makes you angry!

We all dislike something, whether you hate seeing injustice or children hungry, use that anger as a navigation device to point you in the direction of your gift. Your gift is the answer to a problem, so you naturally become angry at the thing you were designed to change.

You do it effortlessly.

It’s the thing that others find difficult to do, that you do so effortlessly. Because you do it so easily you believe that everyone else should find it easy to do but they don’t. It’s that thing that you take for granted. You don’t think it can truly make you rich, because it seems so simple. But that’s the thing that God wants to use to elevate your life, but obedience is the vehicle that will get you there.

Many people dismiss their gifts because they lack the educational background in that area, not understanding that the person who was taught to do it can not contend with someone who was gifted to do it. You don’t learn your gift, you perfect your gift. If you are going to school to learn a gift its not your gift. You can learn a skill- you cannot learn a gift because a gift is freely given.

Now write down all the things you said you wanted to become as a child. Then write all the things that make you angry. Finally, write down the things that you do effortlessly and find the nexus between everything that you’ve written down. What are the things that are recurring in all three areas?

Many of you may have multiple gifts so leave nothing out. After you’ve narrowed down your list take it to God in prayer and ask him to confirm what your gifts are and he will answer you.

 

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Mothering Nations Through Education w/ Dr. Moneshia Dashiell

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I am too busy mothering nations through education!

 

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Dr. Moneshia Dashiell; D.Ed continues to transform today’s young minds through books. Her latest book, ‘Hello Alphabet’ was designed for children in Pre-K through fifth grade. This book will allow children to understand letter sound, letter recognition and strengthens the child’s language skills. The alphabet is simply a collection of letters and sounds. The alphabet is the building blocks of literacy; so children must learn to recognize, name the letter both in and out of order and learn the sounds associated with each letter. Purchase this book and others here.

Denise Major: Mother, Author & Activist Grace the Cover Of I AM QUEEN Magazine February​ 2019 Issue

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We are the sum of all our experiences, hence they are priceless. Who and what I am today is due to what I have experienced and how I decided to shape that.

 

Mother of 3 beautiful children, Denise Major made it her life’s mission to be the adult that she needed when she was a child and the sister and friend we all need as women. As an advocate for women and youth, Denise M. Major sees first hand just how important it is to encourage individuals to support each other as they go through life’s challenges and to celebrate each other’s successes.

 

Having become a teen mom at the age of 16 she is no stranger to hard work and has been working since the age of 17 first starting out as a graphic artist at the Nassau Guardian and within a few short months, she pressed her way into the newsroom. Her career in journalism and marketing/public relations lasted eight years before she transitioned into the world nonprofits. But her passion for media did not completely fade away as she continued on as the creator and host of the Youth By Youth Radio Show and is a regular talk show guest and host appearing on several radio shows throughout the Bahamas.

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It was during one of the darkest periods of her life that she found her purpose in helping those in need. She began her work in nonprofits as a rape victim’s advocate and volunteer at the Bahamas Crisis Center and eventually began working fulltime at the Bahamas Urban Youth Development Center as the Program Coordinator. This opportunity opened many doors within many other reputable organizations including Field Officer at the Bahamas Red Cross, Assistant Director at Bain Grants Town Advancement Association, Program Development Consultant for the Bahamas Against Crime and the Coalition to Save Clifton, Community Outreach Worker for the PEPFAR Program.  ( Presidents Emergency Plan For AIDS Relief ) and The Bahamas National HIV/AIDS Program and most recently the Executive Director for Bahamas Sexual Health & Rights Association formerly known as Bahamas Family Planning. In addition, she is the CEO of The Empowerment Group, a company whose aims it is to empower individuals so that they can be their best selves and in doing so empower others.

 

She has received numerous certifications through her work such as Trusted Adult Youth Communicator and Sex Educator by the American Red Cross, certified Youth Leader by the Ministry of Youth Sports and Culture, she has completed several courses in Disaster Relief, and Community Building and numerous other certifications related to HIV/ STI’s and NGO Program Development. She continuously pursues new ideas and learning best practices in these fields.

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Throughout her tenure, while working with nonprofit organizations serving as a Youth Specialist, Denise has started and directed multiple mentorship programs and projects aimed at empowering young people and assisting at-risk youth and young women. In 2018 she decided to put pen to paper and share her story in an effort to reach young people she may not have gotten a chance to reach. She authored Purposefully Broken and collaborated with 4 other inspirational women from the Caribbean and USA on Rebranding My Life. Denise is passionate about her purpose and hopes to one day operate a transitional home for at-risk youth and women.